Welcome to the Hot Summer Romance Giveaway Hop. It's great to see you here and I hope you're having a great time, keep reading to find out about grand prizes and my giveaway, and while you're here lets have ponder on the external benefits of reading erotic romance - in other words not just the pleasure of immersing oneself in fantasy with big, hot, raring-to-go hunks, but whether or not it improves individual's sex lives and spices up bedroom time.
Certainly I believe introducing eroticism into the bedroom in the form of literature can only be beneficial, it gets you in the mood, gives you ideas and heightens the awareness of all things sexy - including your partner who, lets face it, can occasionally be neglected.
I say this because I did a secret bit of research recently on a friend who was an unwitting guinea pig - still is. She loves her man very much, they have been together for years, but she was finding that when it came to playing 'hide the sausage' it just wasn't happening for her, she wasn't up for it, the desire just not there - luckily she likes to talk, a lot, especially after a glass of wine.
In a totally separate conversation, we went on to chat about what books we were reading. At this point I confessed that I'd just re-read The Story of O. She however told me she was reading some awful zombie story. It was all horror, gore and suspense. I say awful because to me that sort of story is awful, and certainly not my choice of bed-time reading. No, I like to snuggle down with heart-stoppingly gorgeous men and wonderfully romantic and sexy tales spinning around my head, not blood and guts spilling out all over the place and wondering what every bump and bang in the house is at night - but that's just me.
Anyway, being a bit bossy, which I'm afraid I am, I told her that her reading material may well be the root of her libido problem. At which point she topped up our wine and said, "Go on." I pointed out that it was logical, if you're stressed and wound up as you go to sleep, wondering if that zombie is going to come and get you (doesn't help that she lives in a creepy old farmhouse that dates back two hundred years) then how are you going to feel in the mood for a bit of fun? For her this was like a revelation, for me it was common sense (told you I'm bossy!!!).
I set her a challenge to just read books I recommended for the next month to see if she would feel able to make the switch from fleecy pyjamas to satin nightie!
All the time I was being very scientific- well, no, not really but there you go - and I started off with gentle romances with a bit of action and when she said how much she enjoyed them I upped the heat level. Giving her stories with much more graphic sex scenes and a sprinkle of kink.
Before long she was texting me to say how much she was enjoying the books, she was neglecting her day time chores to read and getting through my paperback collection at a rate of knots.
Time to ply her with wine again...
Sure enough, she was soon telling me about the naughtiness her and hubby had been up to the night before, not loads of details but enough to make her blush and for me to know that my experiment had been a success. "I'm going to have to get a Kindle," she said. "So people can't see the covers of what I'm reading!"
So in conclusion I would say that yes, reading erotic novels of any heat level can increase your sex-drive. And one of the most poignant things my friend said was that as she was reading all of these books, thinking about the dashing heroes and the sex and emotions, she actually had a hero of her own, lying right next to her, she just had to grab what was hers and make herself the star of her own erotic novel!!
Do share your thoughts, I would love to know if anyone else has done any serious studies on this matter!
Lily x
Oh, and talking of married couples, check out my co-author with Natalie Dae called That Filthy Book. All about a relationship that finds itself on a steep learning curve as the couple rediscover the joys of how they used to be...and more!
Check out the 5* reviews for That Filthy Book and if you fancy winning a copy just leave me a comment and your email address and I will pick a winner at random at the end of the hop.
Don't forget about the grand prizes too - A Kindle Fire AND a $50 Amazon giftcard.
Lily x
Thanks for participating. I have read many of your books and find them enthralling.
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Lily,
ReplyDeleteI have to agree that the books we read certainly influence our dreams and lives. In turn, our activities play a part in what we read. I work in law enforcement and as a rule, generally don't read crime dramas or mysteries but I love fantasies, romances & historicals. I need that escape from the drama of my job. My husband & I participate in Ren Fairs, which is the ultimate in romance.
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I can say a resounding yes what I read does effect what goes on in my bedroom :). My DH even commented about it he said are you learning this from your books. I just smiled and he said read more LOL.
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I don't have a significant other, but when I read a great erotic novel I wish I did ;)
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I think it helps. Although, sometimes I wish he would read them too!
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ReplyDeleteI completely agree with you and I have also done my own experiments with some friends and their literary choices. I found that in most (not all) their choice of reading can affect their intimacy.
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So many great books being added to my TRB list today!!
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hahahah!! I have gotten MANY MANY of my girlfriends to switch up their normal nighttime reads!! I love hot romance and when a book is awesome, I am alllll about sharing!! Great story and LOVE the blurb of this book!!
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Interesting experiment. I would believe that as it surely helps me enjoy through my imagination. That Filthy Book sounds interesting, Thanks for sharing the giveaways. evamillien at gmail dot com.
ReplyDeleteWonderful experiment! This also works if you're rereading scenes you wrote yourself *ahem*. Thanks for sharing and kudos on the review!
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I just love great experiments! Some of the men I have been in loved it when I read books that heat me up.
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I would love to own a copy. Congrats on the Amazon reviews: as a married woman of almost 20 years, maybe I should read this book with my hubby! ;)
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i totally agree some reads just spice things up
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Very scientific research ;) But, I would agree it does improve things!
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ReplyDeleteI agree. Every now and again, I like to shock the hubs by reading out loud a particularly hot scene from whatever book is in my hand...just to watch his reaction. Sometimes it leads to a rather "interesting" evening... ;)
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I agree that everything that gets you in the mood only can be beneficial - we need to add some fun to life!
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What and interesting experiment :)
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Love the experiment and I completely agree with you. Nothing like a hot steamy read to get you in the mood.
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Great post. Thanks for participating.
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I completely agree that books you read can influence your actions.
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Great post! Thank you for the fun hop and giveaway! :)
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I can fully substantiate your study. My hubby completely supports my reading addiction as he is the sole beneficiary of the results.
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Thanks for all the wonderful comments and congrats to Rachel who won a copy of That Filthy Book!
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